This past weekend was a crazy one. We were invited to our good friends house to play poker and meet new people and eat great food. My husband and I brought some of our friends with us that are getting to know the host and hostess better.There were Georgians and Russians and Americans. Bikers and Cooks and Singers and Players...we had a very eclectic group of people there that night. I love all sorts of people. If you are good people, then we are good. Thats my only thing.
As the night progressed, we brought the guitar out and I began playing some of my songs.Everyone seemed to enjoy my song playing, so that was nice to feel. I am gaining confidence in my voice and my playing. I'm very proud of my lyrics and usually don't have any reservations sharing those, but all three together can be tough.
Throughout the night it had been mentioned that some others were musically enclined as well so I passed the guitar to a man named URI, he is my friend Kety's Russian friend. He began playing some old Russian songs. They were very good. Of course he could have been saying anything, but it sounded so great. Someone said that outloud which was of course funny because it was true. Foreigners are always attractive right? lol. Well Someone at the party with very little class decided to put a napkin in my lap! At first I didn't understand it, but by the time everyone was laughing I finally did catch on. But it all happened so fast that I didn't react the way I had wanted to. I am therefore mad at myself.
What got me thinking about this is that I was wondering how Uri felt about it. He must have been so embarrassed. Maybe not, but you know its my personal opinion that if someone is sharing a gift they have, it is so tasteless to throw some nasty obcene joke into the mix. It was rude and uncalled for and it took away from the musicians moment. It wasn't even close to true either, so we can;t use the whole fall back of "its true so its funny". But I am forgiving and I move on. Its just I sort of feel the need to apologize to Uri for that womans behavior. And I say woman because she had to be around 40 years old and you would think that by then she would have grown up a little bit.
I can remember being young and around adults and I would listen to their conversations and get some of what they were saying but alot of it went over my head. When I did begin understanding it (and most of the content was about sex) I would get this uncomfortable feeling and in my mind I would sort of tell myself that its too mature for me to get yet, and I would look forward to the day when it didn't make me feel that weird uncomfortable feeling anymore. I can now report that, that one situation was a learning experience for me. I understand now that I don't ever want to be comfortable with that sort of humor. Because to me its really not funny. Its about as funny as The Family Guy (whick I think is the epitome of whats wrong with our society, that we can laugh at such discusting things and roll on with life).
I can agree that some of the political jokes are a little funny, the ones that aren't too personal. But I'm sorry I can not, will not EVER laugh at sexual molestation, or womens degredation or all the other lines that they cross in that show.
Its not that I couldnt handle a joke in that way in which she delivered it. I am a woman now and I am comfortable with my body, but its surprises me that another woman would make a gesture like that, be totally inconsiderate about peoples feelings and steal that moment and turn into something gross. I wish I had all the words that I am feeling right now to express this.
I'm so mad at myself for not catching on quickly enough and then laughing her stupidity off. And I am very sorry for Uri. Obviously we were all adults there but something like that is just dumb to joke about in the way in which she did. Maybe she was feeling that way towards him and pushed it on to me. Its not that there wasn't something to be attracted in him, but to turn it into something so dirty and uncalled for.
Ok I'm done bitching about that...but until I wrote that down I don't think I could have gotten past it. I have learned from it and I am grateful for that much.
The rest of the night was mostly pretty fun. We had a very talented guy playing guitar and we were all singing and dancing.He played some songs we knew and some we didn't but it was all so soulful and inspirational. I love getting a big group of people together who are all so different to embrace the differences and have a good time. Just that one tiny little thing that bothered me. Thats all.
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